So today was my dad's birthday and it went quite well. i spent time with my dad cause while he was watching james bond and hockey i was doing my ligne du temps for history so we would talk. Preparing supper was long but went quite smoothly for once and then we brought him to see Tintin as part of his birthday present. The rest of his present is also his christmas present. when we are in labelle or new years we are gonna bring him to the scandinave spa and have him get the same swedish thingie with baths and massage and other stuff we gave him last time. we will come with him but we'll just stay in the baths.
so after the movie we were talking and my sisters were cutting me off, saying snide comments, and mmaking me feel stupid. everytime i would say something they would eitheor cut me off or look at me funy to whatever i said or say (if i was asking a question) that it was stupid. it was getting annoying. when we got home we started putting candles on my dads cake. I went to get my dads camera and then i was looking for saras camera and sara and emily were asking ''what are you doing?'' emily even said at the end when i came to the table with only my dads camera ''geez julia why do you have to be so selfish you can look for whatever you are looking for later'' i was mad and amazed that every time i told them what i was doing they didn't listen! then i got to the table and i was pissed of and we had a few exchanges of angry words until i realized i should stop cause dad wouldn't want us arguing. so i did the first thing i thougt of and closed my eyes and took deep breaths until i calmed down. when i opened my eyes francesco ws looking at me pitifully so i guess he had understood why i was mad and when i met eyes with my dad he looked at me like he knew too. I was releived to know that at least francesco and my dad had been listening i just wish they would have defended me when sara and emily were being so annoying but i guess francesco would've gotten in trouble with emily and my dad would've had to deal with sara and emily upset with him. so i guess it was okay that it ended there and that i controlled my anger it was just difficult cause they persisted. They were thanking mom for the cake and i kept on saying '' i made it! not mom!'' but they never heard me and my mom didn't deny it. but my dad and francesco each said that the cake was good to me. it was amazing how they just didn't hear me! all day they were like this whenever i would tell them something i would see there attenton shift to something else. i was being totally ignored! They treat me like im inferior to them and they never listen to me! arg!
-Sekoya
Hmm, it seems like you need to have a nice little talk with your sisters as well. You need to make the listen to you. Sit them down and make sure their full attention is on you, no distractions. Ask them if they even realize how much they don't listen to you/make you feel inferior. It's all in the communication, Julia! They probably don't even realize what they've been doing.
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thats it they DONT realize it while its happening. but they know they often don''t listen to me. jason and oana have even said that they don't listen to me when they've witnessed it and i can't count on one hand the number of suppers we've had where i'd say ''you guys just cut me off!'' I've talked about it with sara and she knows she does it. i even wrote in saras room on her litle black board ''lisen to julia'' emily doesn't do it as much as sara. but sara does it all the time and ive sat down and talked to her about it many times. she listens when i tell her but she seems to forget about it later! its quite annoying!
ReplyDeleteand i haven't spoken to them about the inferior thing so i shoud do that. but that's been going on for ages! cause im their little sister so to them there is no way that i could know something they don't know''
-Sekoya
ohmygod, i knwo how you feel... like so many times at home illl say stuff and no one will hear me, its like im invinsible.. kinda annoying. mybe its cuz theri family so they can block out the voice? i donno:/¸
ReplyDeletethat was very strong of you to just calm down... i think it was a good idea that time cuz it was your dads birthday so you did it for him, but its not a good thing foryou to just let it go and forget about it. and they shud defend u, but it was ur dads bday but ifnot, they shud go for whats right and deal with the consequences....
and yeah sibling are like that i find, you'll tell them something, how you feel what u want them to stop, so they will but then start again
-slushiees